26 August 2010

It will come to this for all of us

Just a short post. Dad had a big stroke and is slowly fading away.

The whole family is here and are being supportive, nurturing, polite and hilarious as only they can be.

I sat awake all night last night watching Dad breathe. It was strange and good and awful and dear. Some day I will try to capture it in words.

Update: He passed peacefully yesterday about 3 pm. We were all there. Rest in peace, dad, and have fun with Laura.

40 comments:

flutter said...

sending peace to you and yours.

Rachel said...

Continuing to have you and your family in my thoughts. I can't imagine these moments yet to be captured.

(And don't get me started on soulectomies...)

Adrienne said...

When my mom was dying (gah I hate writing that) some of the nurses and dr's seemed to have a soulectomy. But when I spoke to another one she said that some just can't allow themselves to get "involved" with the patient emotionally and have to put up a wall.

So much love and so many hugs for you.

Lady M said...

Love and strength to you and your family.

Suzanne said...

sending my love to you and your family.

sarah_ontheroad said...

Thinking of you and wishing you and family peace, comfort, love and humour. xxx

Mir said...

Holding your family in my heart, Suebob.

jonniker said...

So much love to you and your family, Suebob. Our family is thinking of yours.

Sending you all warmth and love.

Erika Jurney said...

I'm so sorry Suebob. Thinking of you and your family.

Sarah, Goon Squad Sarah said...

I am so sorry.

Love.

Barnmaven said...

Thoughts and prayers being sent for your dad and for all of you during this time.

flurrious said...

I'm so sorry, Suebob. Wishing peace and comfort for you and your family.

Joe Crawford (artlung) said...

That's way hard Suebob.

It's so hard to teach compassion. The emphasis is on the body. The mind and the soul get short shrift. Doing more with less, the theme of America. I find that medical professionals *can* hear you if you can find a way to gently remind them that they are human beings and that sometimes the rote things we say don't apply.

Prayers for you and the Suebob family.

sassymonkey said...

Oh Suebob, I'm so, so sorry. I flew home in June and sat with my grandmother in much the same way. Strange, good, awful and dear - yes, that's exactly what it was like. Those hours in the middle of the night were precious.

meno said...

It will indeed come to this for all of us. Hopefully surrounded by family as your dad is.

Swapna said...

sending love and prayers to you and your family

lizgwiz said...

You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Mary_Flashlight said...

I'm sorry Suebob. I'll be thinking of you.

Headless Mom said...

So sorry. Prayers for you all.

grace said...

I'm sorry, Suebob. I'll be thinking about you and your family.

super des said...

big fat hugs

Cori said...

I'm so sorry about your father. Sending good thoughts your way.

Peevish said...

I'm very fond of your Dad, and sorry to hear this news.

Kizz said...

I'm so glad you were all there. Glad it was relatively quick for him. So sorry your dad is gone.

daysgoby said...

Oh, honey. I am so very sorry.

lisajay99 said...

I am sorry to hear about your dad - he sounded like such a great character - wishing you and your family peace.

Ericka said...

oh no. i'm so sorry.

my deepest condolances!

Isabella Golightly said...

Sincere condolences.

Jessica said...

My deepest sympathies, Sue. I never met your dad, Hell, I haven't met you, but reading about your family for the past couple of years made me feel like I knew him a little bit.

Big hugs to you.

edgyiam said...

Deepest sympathy to you and your family.

Magpie said...

Oh, hon - I'm so sorry.

Aunt Snow said...

Oh, SueB0b. So very very sorry. This is similar to the way my Dad passed in 2002.

So glad he had you all there with him at the last.

Laurie said...

Been thinking about you all week, but you know that.

Jen the Trephinist said...

I'm so sorry, friend.

Lawyerish said...

Sending you much love, my friend. I believe your dad felt your presence as you sat by his side and it must have given him such peace.

Scientific Lutheran said...

My mom just passed away on saturday.

My heart breaks for both of us.

May God give both of our families peace and comfort.

RuthWells said...

I am so sorry for your loss.

nonlineargirl said...

Oh Suebob, I am so sorry for your loss. It is clear from your writing how strong your relationship with your parents has been.

ktjrdn said...

So sorry Sue

Lumpyheadsmom said...

I'm so sorry. I lost my father last month, too - it's just so hard, in ways I never imagined it would be.

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