31 March 2010

Life Lesson Day

After aqua aerobics this morning (going to the gym in the morning is yet another perk of funemployment), I drove over to a nearby shopping center. I was looking for a parking place.

This woman driving a white car zoomed down a side aisle, flew past me AND a huge SUV and into a parking place, narrowly missing hitting the SUV.

The SUV driver and I threw up our hands and then I saw that the SUV driver was my aqua aerobics teacher, Delia. Delia pulled up behind the crazy driver, so I stopped, too, waiting to see what was going to happen.

The white car driver did not get out of the car. In fact, after a couple minutes, she put her car in reverse. Delia gave up and moved on. The crazy lady pulled back in her spot and exited her car.

"Nice driving," I yelled.

"Oh, I'm so, so sorry," the woman stammered. She ran up to my car.

"I never do things like that. It's just that I'm so upset. My...my husband just called me at home and he forgot to file some paperwork and he said we owe the IRS $6000 and we don't have the money and I didn't know what to do but I just had to get out of the house and I was so upset that I wasn't thinking and I saw what I did and I thought 'Oh my dear Lord I could have killed someone' and I just want you to know I'm not that kind of person."

Then she burst into tears.

Which is how I ended up holding hands with a complete stranger in the middle of a parking lot out the window of my car at 11 a.m. on a Wednesday morning.

Lesson Learned: Don't judge, because you never know.

13 comments:

jennyalice said...

Great story. So glad she apologized, and how wonderful you are to hold her hand!

Al_Pal said...

WOW. Great reminder.

susical said...

Agreed, wonderful story/reminder. Thank you!

Suzanne Reisman said...

Wow, that is a really moving story.

trinity67 said...

How kind of you!

claire said...

Damn. You just really never know, do you.

Scientific Lutheran said...

I try to remember that when someone is weaving through traffic and cutting people off. Like, maybe the baby sitter called and the little one has been vomiting for the last hour and it seems to be getting worse. Or something like that. And not just that the person is a jerk.

Skye said...

Thanks for posting this.

agirlnamedmel said...

This is so true and I'm glad you posted it because this woman opening up to you is a one in a million chance in these situations. We could be more aware

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Jen the Trephinist said...

This was driven home to me so hard when I was getting a divorce. I was a mess and doing lots of stupid things with cars and shopping carts and ATMs and anything else you use in your daily life, and I wanted to cry all over the people who were kind about it.

Except ... well ... most of them weren't.

I try very hard now to remember what that was like in hopes that I won't be the kind of person who makes someone else's awful day even worse.

Dory said...

This is an excellent reminder of the need for compassion. You just never know what the other person might be going through.

Dory at Can't Remember Diddly

meno said...

Classic example of a paradigm shift. thank you.

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